® to come or not to come

Ah, the female orgasm. Source of inspiration for artists, source of perspiration for others. A goal to be reached, a mystery to be solved.

There is such a contradiction in shared sexuality, because being intimate with someone doesn’t necessarily mean that we talk about our sexuality. Sometimes expressing what we like, with words and everything, feels more intimate than actually doing it. Why? I’m not sure. Of course there is a huge vulnerability in saying what you like; it’s a lot more brave and intimate than saying what you don’t. You let someone take a peak in your insides.

You show a true part of yourself, fully knowing it can be judged or loved by the person you choose to share it with. It’s a way of letting go and having faith that it won’t bruise you or leave you shattered.

So what about this female orgasm? Something some women have only experienced alone; others even never at all. Where the male orgasm can be said to be reached in a more straightforward way with a partner, the female one sometimes asks for a bit more… creativity.

Giving pleasure can be immensely gratifying, but receiving it may be even more intimate. You have to let go.

And that’s tricky. It takes trust, letting go of insecurities  about our body or performance and, of course, excitement.

It helps a great deal when we’re with a partner who enjoys both giving and receiving pleasure.

Sexuality is a great journey, sometimes you fly solo, and sometimes you enjoy a traveling buddy. And isn’t it just wonderful when the highlights are experienced by all explorers involved?